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On March 27th, SIAST instructors had the opportunity to hear Allan Kehler, Author of Stepping out from the Shadows: A guide to Understanding and Healing from Addictions, speak. Alan pointed out that if you have lived in an environment of addictions you quickly learn: Don’t talk, Don’t feel and Don’t trust. He used a story about a boy to illustrate this point. Allan pointed out that we must remember that there is a good person inside even those that are dealing with addictions and that anger to anger creates more anger. We must treat anger with compassion.
Alan also talked about the three signs of being addicted: Waking up and thinking about it first thing in the morning; Using it to build your confidence (Taking a drink to go to a social event.) and Using it alone. Some of the signs of addiction include: physical deteriation; blood-shot eyes; decrease in attendance or performance at work and self-injurious behaviours. Really people who have addictions are trying to escape the painful reality of life. He uses the exercise Who am I? to have individuals be able to outline what is important to them : Want, Need, Like, Love, Dislike, Wish, Fear and Am.
It is important that we reach out to people and be available to listen. We need to be able to tell individuals that we are available and then be available if they stop by to talk. It is important to stop what you are doing and listen because they have taken the important first step. The session ended with Five Commitments: “Know your students not just as students, but as people; Understand behaviors may not be symptoms of laziness, but a side effect of an imbalanced home: Create trust and safety so that they feel comfortable talking without fear of judgment; Offer an invitation that you are available and genuinely interested to hear about their challenges and Be aware of available resources.
Listen to the podcast here
Alan Kehler’s Podcast